Welcome to International dating See why International dating is the fastest growing relationship site on the web.Create your International dating profile to begin the exciting journey towards finding your match.) It is affirming to hear that others do read Scripture the same way.However, It has been disheartening, and even spiritually challenging to know that, in the particular situation I am referring to, the leadership of the CMA church has not only been told that the person is not divorced, continues to allow the person/s to serve and is ignoring the obvious dating, in church.You raised some good questions, especially about the church's responsbilitiy to hold church members/eaders to account.Sadly, I believe that in our current American culture, it has become all too common for professing Christians to disregard what the Bible teaches about many issues and live in outright disobedience.That's why I asked- perhaps it is a CMA position that dating during a divorce is ok.
I believe there needs to be caution here, and do we really need to determine motive if two are seen as a couple routinely.Furthermore, it is disingenious for the other party to be dating someone who regards their current legal bond so lightly. For an in depth and extremely conservative study on this subject see the book "The Divorce Myth", by J. Perhaps in an effort to avoid legalism, we have lost perspective on the fact that God does know best, and His ways are always best. Maybe a life of celibacy for the divorcee who simply stays close to Jesus is much better for them than the possibility of making the same mistakes over again in a subsequent marriage.) Perhaps we have come to the place in American Christianity where we think that because the scriptures state clearly that God is love, we don't have to reckon with His other attributes, such as wisdom, justice, etc. As to responsibilities of the church in regards to confrontation and accountability, the scriptures are clear (1 Tim. Confrontation must always be done with a view toward restoration of the repentant. Seek wisdom from your church leadership, if possible. The answer might be that in the case of "dating" there is no evidence of sexual misconduct and therefore no clear point of sin to confront.In an even more conservative perspective, many would say that even after the divorce, remarriage may not be a legitimate option. I personally think that anyone who is currently legally married and yet is "dating" while awaiting divorce proceedings, is undermining whatever is left of their marriage and showing no regard for the possibility of a future reconciliation.I firmly believe I have Biblical grounds to divorce, and don't feel the need to talk through my decision to divorce, as I am at peace with it and sought Godly counsel- but am open to respond to questions.It wasn't an easy decision, especially considering some of the misguided 'spiritual' counsel I received.