You are not stuck, although you might feel that you are.Past failures do not mean that you didn't care, or that you sabotaged yourself. You can overcome any addiction, including any form of sexual addiction, with an approach that works and proper guidance.Here are a few typical ways a sexually addicted person is advised to repress his addictive desires: Stay away from the Internet.Don't read anything or watch movies that might be sexually stimulating.But, you cannot overcome a sex addiction by trying to escape your sexually addictive desires because they are directly tied to your sex drive and you won't be able to successfully repress your sex drive over the long run.
Instead of beating yourself up or concluding that you're hopeless, use your discovery of this website and my free e-book as an opportunity to expand your knowledge so that you get the control over this very troubling problem you've struggled with most of your life. Anyone who tells you that overcoming a porn addiction, compulsive masturbation, infidelity, or promiscuity is easy is not someone to be trusted. But what I can do, and what the Most Personal Addiction can do, is help you overcome the temptation to lie to yourself and your partner or me about your sex addiction.
I was working late." And of course, "I would never cheat on you." The first goal in counseling is to help the addicted person stop lying.
Despite the years and years of lies the addicted person may have told himself and others, he can stop lying. The addicted person does need medication, meetings, or years of therapy analyzing his childhood to stop lying.
Approaches based on guilt mongering and scare tactics will not help the sex addict get control. Retribution and humiliation can achieve short term success.
Long term success requires a positive approach that encourages and supports the addicted person's efforts to stop. Advice that works Conventional licensed therapy and the 12-step program rely on various forms of repression to try to overcome sex addiction.